Monday, June 29, 2009

How old is TOO old?

I was at a wedding recently and we were talking about the age difference between one couple (not the bride and groom) and someone said, "he's older- like 28." Most of the women at the wedding were about 25.

My reply to this was, "older is relative" because I fell for a guy recently who wasn't quite honest about his age. We met at a charity event and totally hit it off; like the kind of night where you talk in the bar until 3am without drinking too much and just falling for each other. I had never had a night like that.

Before our official first date, I googled him (I usually do...) and had an inkling that he was older than me. This was based on his school resume on his Linked In account. I was hoping he was the legal version of Doogie Howser. Either way, I was still intrigued and thought if he felt significantly older, it wouldn't go past the first date.

Needless to say, he didn't feel too old. Second date, I pushed him to admit how old he was. He said 10 years ago, he moved to NY and was my age. So....35. Not too bad, totally within my range. And again, we had chemistry.

Come 4th date, after he had been to my place and seen my lifestyle and pictures, he basically told me we needed to stop dating. In part because he realized he was almost closer in age to my dad than to me. Yikes!

Turns out, he was 40. Still a good guy, but 15 years is too much. I think deep down that I knew he wasn't really 35 but turned a blind eye because he intrigued me. Lesson learned there, trust your gut!

There are a couple of more stories about this one....ladies who know them, don't spoil them in the comments, they are coming soon.

1 comment:

  1. Oh my goodness, ha!!! 15 years is a bit much, me thinks. Too bad, since he was a nice guy!